Diary of Radhika Bilgihttp://radhikabilgi.rediffiland.com/Diary of Radhika Bilgien-usSomethings yet NothingI recently came across this line....

A few Nothings mean much more than many Somethings.

What do you think?

But then again..... what about Something is better than Nothing???
]]>Tue, 24 Apr 2007 21:00:29 +0530http://radhikabilgi.rediffiland.com/blogs/2007/04/24/Somethings-yet.htmlExpectations"I expected atleast this much out of you"... "Maybe I am expecting too much from you" Familiar na? There are so many expectations from the smallest thing to the biggest things in life. We expect from people, from situations, from things, from ideas, from feelings... as a matter of fact from everything. We expect a great life, a great career, a wonderful bunch of friends, an everlasting relation, so on and so forth.

Every action is either expected or unexpected! We get so deeply involved in fulfilling either our own expectations or others expectations that we almost forget what we were actually doing. So often our thoughts, feelings, words, actions and emotions are a result of someone's expectations out of us.

We fulfill all our expectations, everyone's expectations, we get frustrated, we reach the peak of giving up...but we dont & in the end we make it. WHY???.... Because these expectations are the driving force. If we dont expect anything out of something then we wouldnt set any bench marks & thus not achieve anything substantial in the end.

I think its only best for us to understand that we should expect something inorder to achieve many things.


]]>Tue, 24 Apr 2007 20:41:45 +0530http://radhikabilgi.rediffiland.com/blogs/2007/04/24/Expectations.htmlWhat is the purpose of living?What is the purpose of living?

Is there a destination that we have to reach in life? Or is living happily and successfully, the destination? Is our life a reason or is the purpose?

Grow Up... Learning in life never ends. are these two phrases opposites? When do we finally grow up? Are we living life to achieve something? What is our endeavor and which is our expedition?

I know these are too many questions, but this is something which is always on my mind.

Coming to think of it gravely, according to my little understanding, there are two kinds of people.

"Yeh world hai na, isme sirf do type ke log hote hai"

One: They are on a constant move to achieve something. One after the other their dreams, goals, ambitions, etc are rising upto an elevated level. They are never satisfied with what they have achieved and their quest for knowledge is never ending. For them sky is just the foundation of the limit.

Two: These kinds of people are moving ahead, but not to achieve something but to live each day to the fullest. For them the process living is the purpose of living. Of course they are achievers, but in a different way! The path they walk on may not necessarily lead to a conventionally defined successful one! They see, appreciate, enjoy, comprehend and learn from every step they take while walking on the path. They don't run to take the right turn at the right time for the right thing. This is living fruitfully for them!

]]>Tue, 31 Oct 2006 08:34:54 +0530http://radhikabilgi.rediffiland.com/blogs/2006/10/31/What-is-the-purpose-of.htmlGrowing Up!Ever thought how do we grow up???

Perhaps in the process of growing up, we do feel the pressures of challenges. Growing is not being a leafy vegetable but being a fountain of elixir - the contents of which are again knowledge and an undistorted assimilation of intelligence. On the path of enlightenment (no I am not referring to the philosophical one), such assimilations form the bedrock of your applicative skills. I do agree that we would like to test the waters, fathom its depth, analyze and resolve the consequences. I am the one who subscribed to such theories. In science for example, do we challenge the basic equations or theorems? No we do not. Instead we use such basics to apply over our presented issues or problems. Does it not make sense to move further by using validated concepts to apply over our problems? I guess it does. The issues of basic experiences, consequences are best left to themselves. We need not waste our time, energy and creativity on reproving the already validated. Instead we use such axioms to move further in life. To translate this fact into a more meaningful dialogue is; I took the advices of my proven well wishers for my confusions. I built my convictions on such basis. Formed my opinions and action plans on a four way test;

a) Am I fair?
b) Will my action relieve my conscience
c) Will it do good to all concerned
d) Will my decision affect the purity of my mind.

Perhaps it's all easier said than done! But with an endowed mind it will be easier done than said !!!

]]>Sat, 28 Oct 2006 09:48:46 +0530http://radhikabilgi.rediffiland.com/blogs/2006/10/28/Growing.htmlFaithFaith and God

"Jump baby, I'm right here to hold u" I was exposed to these words as a child. If daddy says jump then I know he will hold me. At that age I dint even know how to talk.but faith existed. That's the beauty of having faith!

'Faith can move mountains', all our life our elders have been saying this to us. What does it mean to have faith into something? Is to trust, or is it to believe, or is it to rely on something? What is it?

Faith is all of this and much more! Faith can be in God or parents or an institution or religion. Our faith into something or someone determines the level of loyalty we have in that something or someone. Until and unless we are absolutely convinced about it we cannot put our faith.

There is God...is there? Where? Why can't I see him? Is it her or him? Can I speak to him? Who has seen him? All these questions can be answered to if there is faith. We can't see air but we believe that it exists. Don't we? Of course we do, because we can feel it, similarly we can feel the presence of God. If there wasn't God then how do we justify miracles? A miracle is not the suspension of natural law, but the operation of a higher law...

God is not bound to any religion on caste or creed. It is a belief that there exists a supernatural power which runs the entire universe. God does not mean Bhagvat Geeta, Quran, Bible or Granth, God means conviction, confidence, trust, sincerity, honesty! God teaches us a way to life, the Almighty carves a path for us to walk on. A road to success, this road has speed breakers and steep curves but there is always a sign board which keeps us on track. This sign board is God. He walks with us through the difficult slopes of life and stands with us like our shadow. Just when we are about to give up and leave the road, God holds our hand and guides us to our destination. It's easy to blame God and say he wasn't there when I needed him the most.but do we realize that he was there! He was there like a father, mother, advisor, and even a beggar...it's just that we failed to recognize him. We have a glorified picture of God and faith, which is not true. God resides within us and hence it is our duty to keep ourselves clean mentally and physically.

'"When you really want something to happen, the whole universe conspires so that your wish comes true"' Paulo Coelho

]]>Sun, 15 Oct 2006 14:27:40 +0530http://radhikabilgi.rediffiland.com/blogs/2006/10/15/Faith.htmlConvenience or Customs?Why is a woman given a biased look each time she is seen wearing jeans and a tee shirt? Why is a woman expected to wear a 'sari' and a 'mangalsutra' or 'sindoor' to her work place or her visit to the park? Aren't these things superficial to mark an institution such as marriage?

Every woman is now on the path of making her identity. She has felt the need to create a space for herself in this previously male dominated area. She has found a new road to walk on and a spot to carve a successful personality for her. She is no more the house wife.she has now become the 'home maker'. She has attained a level, where she can balance the daily chores and the office pressure and yet emerge to play various roles of a devoted daughter, daughter in law, wife, mother, sister.

The core of an Indian woman is deep rooted in her heart and soul. An Indian woman is defined by her ability to make relations, her purity in maintaining those relations and her devotion towards God and her family. She is gifted with a shoulder to cry on and to be a tower of patience. She can be as hard as a stone from outside but a melting candle deep inside. All these characteristics of the Indian woman are sowed so deep in her that the way she dresses hardly matters. Her affection for her children will not change whether is she wearing a sari or jeans. Her love and respect for her husband does not depend on a 'mangalsutra'.

These issues are age old and they should not hold any importance now. If a woman feels comfortable in wearing jeans and working for the whole day then she should not be refrained for doing so. It was acceptable during the old times because the role and duties of the woman were extremely different from now. Woman back then did not have to face the swarm of the 9:07am local train from Borivali to Churchgate, she did not have to come home tired after a long day and cook. But now a woman has to go through all this and in such a state her comfort and convenience holds prime importance.

What do we expect from a woman? For her carry out her duties irrespective of what she wears or for her to dress up according to the outdated customs???

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